INSIDE: If you’re wondering how to stop being stressed, especially if you’re labeled as uptight or just a burned out mom, these 5 tips will help!
I’ll admit it, I’m an uptight person.
There have definitely been times in my life when I was more carefree. But that was because I didn’t have much to worry about.
Back when I was divorced and living with my son half the week and by myself the other half of the week, things were so much easier. I could keep the house the way I wanted it, I could relax in a quiet house if I wanted to, and I didn’t really have anything to stress over.
But, life is a far cry from that now! When I fell in love with the man of my dreams, I knew he came with baggage, but I didn’t realize how hard it would be. Together, we have 5 boys. There’s my son, his three boys, and then the 3.5 year old we have together (also a boy).
Suffice it to say, I’m now inundated with testosterone, and my peaceful little world as I knew it is a distant memory. I’ve managed to carve out a little nook in the dining room for my office. I’ve decorated it with crystals and all my favorite spiritual, zen-type objects.
I call it my sacred space, but I still have to beg the boys to treat it as such. Goodness, can I just have one little place to call my own? Know what I mean?
So, since I tend toward uptightness when my world isn’t perfectly controlled the way I like it, it’s been a struggle to manage my stress. But, I have learned a thing or two.
Here are the tips I have learned over the years that help me to stop being wound so tight, to release the stress that comes along with it, and to have more fun in the process…
My Top 5 Tips for How to Stop Being Stressed
Stop Trying So Hard
This may sound weird but honestly, it’s the thing that helps me the most. It’s not that I stop caring or that I drop the ball on my responsibilities. It’s about being a little more mellow about everything not being as perfect or controlled as I want it to be.
Here are some examples of what I mean…
- If the play room is a mess, oh well! Do a quick pick up on the areas of the house that add to your stress by being cluttered, and let the other ones go.
- If you’ve been trying to get something done and you’ve been failing over and over again for the past week, stop beating yourself up. Let it go. Don’t even try to get it done because the stress of it will make it impossible. When you let it go, you won’t be stressed and then one day, you’ll do it with ease.
- If you are feeling like you have so many different demands on you and you’re so stressed trying to do them all, drop or reduce some of them! Usually, at least some of these things are self-made stressors that don’t need to be there. For example, if you’re trying to exercise everyday on top of everything else and it’s so stressful to make it happen, cut back. Do what feels possible.
Let Yourself Laugh
You know how when you’re stressed or frustrated and you don’t even want to laugh, even if something is funny? If not, then you’re definitely not as uptight as me.
If so, then I have found that when you let yourself find the humor in situations and give into it, it lightens the mood, and when the mood is lighter, everything is easier.
Look for what is funny in situations. Be silly. Say silly sounds for no reason. Make funny faces. Laugh when you slip and fall. If you have to fake it, fake it. You won’t have to for long before it becomes real.
Make Shorter Lists
I’m a major list-maker. I can’t function without them and I wouldn’t want to. It’s so satisfying to cross something off when it’s done, right?
But, when you’re not at the top of your game, making a To Do list for super mom each day isn’t going to do any good. It’s only going to make you feel worse because there is no way you can get it all done.
Just write the things you definitely need to get done and maybe one additional small little task like making a dentist appointment. Often, once you do that little task, you’ll be inspired to do more, but staring at a long To Do list can make you so overwhelmed that you don’t even do that.
Find Your Way Back to Your Inner Spirit
I don’t know about you but I go through ebbs and flows with my spirituality. I used to beat myself up about it, but now, I just wait it out. When I don’t feel like meditating or reading inspirational books or journaling, I give myself a week or two.
Then, I take a small step to get myself back into it like committing to reading 2 pages or writing one paragraph or meditating for 5 minutes.
When I take those little steps, it helps me find my way back to my higher self because I start to crave more. When I’m craving more, I know I’m in a better place, a place that is definitely less stressful.
Read or Watch Something Inspirational
This one may seem obvious, but that doesn’t make it any less powerful. My soul actually craves this kind of stuff and if I don’t give it to myself, my anxiety and stress just keeps rising.
When we read or watch inspirational things, it shifts our mindset and our perception. And really, life is all about perception.
We all have our own perception, therefore we all have our own reality. And that reality can be shifted quickly with a shift in perception.
Prefer to watch videos? Here’s a good place to find some great ones.
It’s gonna take a little bit of effort but I think you’ll find that these tips are pretty easy to integrate into your life. I’d love to hear about how they have helped you or even your own tips. Please share in the comments below!