Before you had kids, your time was yours. You may have been busy with work or whatever you filled your time with, but outside of work, your time was yours.
As a mom, there is no such thing as “your time,” that is unless you carve it out for yourself (and let’s face it, most of us never figure out how to do that).
If you used to have spiritual practices or if you exercised or cooked healthy food for yourself or God forbid sat down and read a book on the weekend, that all probably went out the window when you became a mom.
Instead, your time is often spent in a state of exhaustion and is filled with caring for and playing with your kids, trying to maintain the house, and sneaking in some quick naps if you have a baby (and if you’re lucky).
As they get older, we are more like chauffeurs, shuffling the kids to and from their activities and taking care of all of their needs and desires. By the time we sit down after they’ve gone to bed, we are ready to crash (and we probably wanted to go to bed much earlier than they would allow us).
This is how we lose ourselves; there aren’t any hours left in the day for doing things that speak to our inner spirit, and slowly but surely, our light fades out.
It has nothing to do with how much we love our children and how much we enjoy being a parent. It’s just that without a means to express our inner spirit and discover and awaken our unique purpose, we feel unfulfilled and it’s almost like we are dead inside.
Your soul is the spark of life inside of you, and your purpose is what turns that spark on.
It’s difficult to feel happy when you don’t have a minute to do any of the things that express who you are as a unique person.
Of course, being a mom has many extremely happy moments, and you wouldn’t trade them for anything in the world, but it also comes with a lot of stress, time-deprivation, sheer exhaustion… and for most moms, a loss of self.
That begs the question: In the chaos of your life, is it even possible to rediscover and reclaim what makes you, you?
Without kids, everything (and I do mean everything) is easier. It’s just a fact – kids complicate things.
Want to run to the store? First you have to pack a diaper bag, convince your child that it will be fun to go while he argues with you to stay home, hoist him into the car seat, buckle him in while he is whining and probably kicking you.
Exhausted already, you get in the car and go. Then, you have to get him out of the car seat and get a special cart with steering wheels that makes maneuvering the aisles that much harder.
10 minutes later, he wants out of the cart and you’re left pushing that thing around while trying to keep track of him and do your shopping at the same time as he bugs you incessantly to buy everything he sees, and you feel like you’re head is going to explode.
So, you decide you’re going to make this a short trip because you can’t possibly get everything you wanted to get in this state. You get through the checkout line and you have to get him back in the car seat all over again.
Get home and you can’t just pull the car into the garage and be done with it because he wants to sit on your lap and press all the buttons in the car while you pull the car into the garage together.
At that point, you’re totally exhausted but still moving onto the next complicated task that would be so easy on your own.
Kids are adorable and they want to experience everything. Of course, we have to let them and when you’re in the right state of mind, it can be quality time that warms your heart.
But when you have a million things to do and everything takes 10 times longer than it would without kids, and when you are deprived of time for yourself, it doesn’t seem so fun or so heartwarming.
Then, of course, we feel bad like we are terrible moms, yet we feel stuck and don’t know how to change it.
Being a mom and being spiritual aren’t usually thought of as going together.
It makes sense why since it’s hard to be spiritual when you are running in five different directions, feeling frustrated and stressed most of the time, and you don’t have any time to do spiritual things, let alone be alone with your own thoughts.
As moms, we have to let certain things go because we just can’t do it all, and in most cases that leads to letting ourselves go.
We gain weight, we throw on frumpy clothes because they are comfortable, we don’t do our hair or makeup, we don’t take the time to exercise, we don’t have time for our spiritual practices or to do the things we enjoy, and as a result, we don’t feel good about ourselves.
There are also those moments when I want to scream because I just want to lay on the couch and watch movies like all the kids in the house get to do when they get sick.
But like those commercials comically point out, there is no off duty time for moms. Sick shmick, you’ve got to suck it up and keep on going.
Sometimes, it feels like everything is there to derail you.
Feeling sick and tired of the way your life is, you get bursts of motivation to change it, and you start putting things in motion, but then your baby decides he’s not going to nap or he ends up with a cold, gives it to you and then you lose all of your energy, or you are required to work more hours this week so there is no extra time to begin with.
No matter what it is, it is such a let down when the little bit of time we managed to carve out for ourselves is cast aside before we can even see it come into view.
So this is how we lose ourselves.
And it’s nothing to be ashamed of, although I know that if you are deep in it, you probably hate yourself for it. I know I did. I went down a dark path. In fact, I call it my dark period. It was a long, painstaking period of 8 years of my life that sucked me dry.
I completely hated myself because I couldn’t even recognize myself anymore and I didn’t like the person I had become at all.
The thing that bothered me the most was that I was mean and I didn’t have any compassion for anyone. I didn’t want to be that way but I just couldn’t seem to locate any compassion inside of myself.
I said no to everything, which is probably the opposite of what a lot of mom’s do who end up saying yes to everything and wearing themselves thin that way. But for me, I was so drained that I couldn’t even think of doing another thing, and that included fun things like spending time with friends or taking a day trip with my family.
Everything felt like a chore on top of what I already had to deal with and saying no was just easier. But it also meant I wasn’t really living.
I was always a very spiritual person and before this all happened, I was heading up a very spiritual path, but as I went deeper and deeper into my dark period, I lost all sight of my spiritual connection. I longed for it but it felt completely impossible to recapture.
I certainly couldn’t sit still and clear my mind to meditate and I didn’t feel like I had even five minutes to dedicate to anything spiritual. I felt like it was never going to happen and that devastated me.
My financial situation was worse than it had ever been. I had lost my job right after I had my last son and I was the breadwinner in the family so it took a major toll on us, especially since we have five boys that were eating us out of house and home.
We struggled for years and the outlook just kept getting bleaker and bleaker as I maxed out credit card after credit card until we had none left to turn to (and I was never that person who carried balances on my credit cards, so it made me feel even more like a failure).
I could go on and on but you get the gist. I know you do because if you’ve read this far, you can relate. And I want you to know that this is exactly where you are meant to be because I found my way out, and it happened FAST!
In a matter of just 2 months, here’s what happened…
- I completely turned my financial situation around. Not only was I attracting clients so much that I regained the income I used to make in my full time job but this time, I was working part time in my freelance writing business.
- I wiped out $30,000 of debt easily and effortlessly, while at the same time being able to purchase a new truck for my husband in cash.
- I gained one to two hours a day of time that I could dedicate to my spirituality.
- I changed the energy in our house and we started getting projects done that I thought would have taken another decade or longer.
- And most of all, I found myself again.
- I rediscovered my purpose, and ideas started flowing to me for how to achieve it. Not only that, but I felt so good that I was able to act on those ideas and know that they were possible for me.
- I no longer felt alone, but instead I was spiritually guided along every step of the way.
To sum it up, literally everything shifted in my life, and it wasn’t a miracle that made it happen. It was simple steps that I took and that anyone can take.
Now, I feel happy and inspired, I am attracting clients and money-making opportunities to myself like crazy, all of our credit card debt is gone, and I am in touch with my inner spirit more than ever before, which empowers me and helps me to be a more peaceful, loving, and successful person.
And you can have all of that too! That’s precisely why I am creating my Sacred Reawakening program. It’s a 2-month coaching program that walks you through the exact steps I took to get out of my dark period, and you’ll be amazed at how much your life can turn around in such a short period of time.
My hope is that you found this program well before you got to the “8-year dark period” mark, but even if it’s been that long for you like it was for me, I can help you reawaken your connection to yourself so you can start attracting awesome stuff, people, and situations to you instead of all the negative crap you have been landing in.
And you can do this quickly and easily, even if you feel like you have no time or energy to make it happen.
Here’s What You Have to Look Forward To
- Learn an amazing trick that will allow you to bend time, so that you can add hours to your day.
- Shift the energy in your life so that everything starts working for you instead of against you.
- Feel peaceful and happy in the midst of your crazy, chaotic life.
- Wake up excited to start your day every day.
- Have total certainty that you can rise above all of the challenges that will come your way in the future.
- Stop feeling lost and stuck, and instead feel your life moving forward and your purpose unfolding before your eyes.
How to Get Access
It’s not ready yet, but it will be very shortly! I am planning to launch in October 2019!
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